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Marriage comes with a Baggage!

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Recently one of my friends was getting married. It was a pure arrange marriage. Undoubtedly, rather than being excited she was a tad wary about the whole deal. The stakes are higher in an arrange marriage compared to a love marriage wherein the former is more of a gamble of lives of two unknown people. Nevertheless, be it arrange or love, marriage always comes with a baggage! And the reasons are many... 1. With marriage comes responsibilities 2. Once independent souls are expected to embrace another’s likes and dislikes and live with it 3. A boundary is drawn over one’s thoughts, independence, freedom since there is an implicit expectation that your actions are in accordance with your better half’s 4. Some choose to compromise and adjust to avoid conflicts and have a smoother sail. But it may in turn effect their self-esteem and self-identity 5. Others choose to remain resolute and put forth their ego above everything. This attitude leads to never ending conflic...
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Do when you can, Pause otherwise

One day I was waiting for the lift at the ground floor of my office. Suddenly a gentleman came in haste and pressed the lift button. Since I had already pressed the lift button, it was highlighted. So I was a bit amused by his action. However, I ignored it. I could see the countdown of the number on the panel as the lift descended. After a few seconds, the gentleman again pressed the button. Now his demeanor caught my attention. I started to observe him. I saw that he was dressed in a neatly ironed full-sleeve formal blue shirt and black pants. His hair neatly combed. He held a laptop bag. I could see a streak of sweat running down his forehead. He seemed to have reached the office in a hurry. I guessed he was late for a meeting or something. A few seconds passed, the indicator showed the number 4. I was waiting patiently when this amazing gentleman again pressed the button. Now I had to speak up. I simply told him, ‘the Lift is going to take its own sweet time to reach the G...
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Beware, are you getting caught in the humdrum trap?

Today while I was travelling in the bus, I overheard one of the passengers saying that she was feeling too bored of her life, it seemed to her that there was no end to her daily routine, that she was just fed up of the monotonous chores of her life. This is not very uncommon. Few days back while traveling by the local train, I observed the facial expressions of people waiting to board the train, of those alighting from the train, and of those simply passing by. I was sad to see that most of them were just plodding through wearing a straight face. As if it was the end of their world. There was lack of enthusiasm and zest in their demeanor. Have you too ever felt such lack of passion and excitement from life? I am sure each one of us do. While most of us may feel the brunt of it just occasionally, it is more of a concern for those who are totally getting caught into this humdrum trap day by day. The Risk factor is higher if we don’t realize that we are getting dragged ...
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Value of a penny

I would like to recite an interesting experience which I had during my stay in Japan. As many of you would know, the highest denomination of the Japanese currency is 10,000 yen and the lowest is 1 yen. Now, it so happened that once during my initial days in Japan, when I had not received my credit card, I went shopping in a super market with only cash in hand for purchasing. When making the payment, I was falling short of 1 yen for my 2000+yen bill. I started to hunt my bag for that 1 yen, at the same time hoping the lady at the counter to simply give me a concession for that 1 yen. Astonishingly what I got back was a cold look from her which was turning into a rather disapproving look. As I became panicky, I would say it was my sheer luck that I finally found that most wanted 1 yen in the corner of my purse.   I handed it over to her with a big relief, but the moment I stepped out of the mart, I thought to myself how could a rich country act so stingy. Having an Indian me...
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I don’t want to be Old...I want to be New!

One evening, my 4-year-old daughter started demanding my lipstick. She wanted to apply it just like her Mother did. I started to explain to her that these are not stuff to be used by baby’s like her. I told her she was too young for it, and that she could use it only when she was old enough. At that she just retorted, ‘I don’t want to be old, I want to be New’ . Her innocent statement caught me off-guard. I was compelled to give it a thought. There was so much meaning hidden in that simple statement which came out directly from a child’s mouth who was yet to experience the realities of life. It was an in-manipulated and unadulterated thought straight out of an innocent mind. Those words also reflected a lot of positivity whereby her statement clearly meant that she always wanted to be the ‘New’ her and never be an ‘Old’ her. Do we grown-ups really make life difficult and unpleasant for ourselves? It would be so good if with every passing birthday we could celebrate the newness i...
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